When you move away there is a lot emotions and events that take place. With my experience it hasn’t been easy especially in the circumstances that we are currently in. Moving to Texas is not a regret, but doing it during a pandemic has been hard since there isn’t much to do.
That distant feeling from people that I have close bonds with has taken a toll on me. I always knew it happened after high school because everyone started their new beginnings and went off to college, but distance does affect you in other stages of life. For me I have never had to deal with that because I only moved an hour away so I stayed close with everybody.
That all started to change months into my move. At first, staying in contact wasn’t hard because it was fairly new. It felt normal since I wasn’t always with friends back home. Then maybe towards the end of last year I started to see friends get together and I wasn’t able to join in. I felt I wasn’t a part of girl talk, the pictures, or making memories together anymore which was understandable since I wasn’t there in person but it was the thought of being left out of what was happening in the lives of people I loved. It’s true when they say life goes on with or without you.
You may relate to this whether you moved away, in different cities/states from friends, or even just growing apart. You have to remember that as life goes distance may bring people closer or pull people farther away. But you can’t let that take control or get the best of you. My mom always told me, real friends stay close no matter how far they are . And every person in your life won’t be in every season. As time goes, we realize who will always be around and what bonds are unbreakable.
Also over these course of months, I noticed that I built relationships with others but somewhat lost that relationship with myself. That happens a lot in today’s society! We create friendships and always have people to link up with when we want to create memories or have fun. Then when it’s taken away, we don’t even know what to with ourselves.
I feel that it needs to be normalized again to just have that alone time with yourself. It’s “weird” to be alone these days, and I even use to think that way. Until I had to learn to be okay with just myself and who I could lean on when I need that comfort. Once I realized that truthfully I was never alone that God gave me Holy Spirit to always be with me even when I felt I had nobody, those feelings no longer had a stronghold on me.
Now I want to you keep in mind that sometimes I do miss my friends and get sad but I never stay down about it. I fall deeper in connection with God and myself ,through devotion and self care, to keep me going.
So remember that sometimes you go through distance from friends but it’s the real ones that stick around. More importantly, lean on that person that will always be there, Holy Spirit, and invite Him in through prayer.
Talk to you soon, Key Lashaye 🖤
